A tid bit was revealed to me today by a 30-something female co-worker that threatened to shake my entire definition of dating in the city forever. The conversation started on a commonplace subject: a cute guy. And led to a silly statement that he let leak nonchalantly, "I wouldn't want to date a girl who had more than 1 one-night stand a month... for guys, I think 2 a month is acceptable."
Really now. Is this standard? Is this legitimate? Would more than silly frat boy concur with this egregious statement? What was completely undermining though was that co-worker thought cute guy needed a reality check. She didn't think it was fair to put such restraints on her dating routine. I sat in shock, dumbfounded, taking in the Union Square afternoon sun.
This entire episode launched me into an introspective about the list... you know, the hook up list (formerly dubbed, "The Bang List"). I remember a time in life... lets say sophomore year of high school, when a good friend and I decided that we'd be married with a list shorter than we could count on our hands. At some point, I guess this morphed into toes too. But what happens, god forbid, when even this isn't even enough? I sigh, thinking about co-worker, her 30-something years, and her list. Doing the math quickly, that would be more than hands and toes in just ONE year!
Have the unwritten rules of society evolved so quickly, that even I, a 20-something social New Yorker, has skipped a beat and fallen into sub-social "prude" status?
I don't know how I feel about this yet. I suppose this week is as good a week as any to test out my feelings...
Ew 1 one-night stand a month? Gross. That's twelve a year, not acceptable.
ReplyDeleteAnd that's supposing that she's only having ONE per month! My thoughts exactly.
ReplyDeleteJust for argument sake, can you come up with a rational argument, devoid of religious implication, that supports the idea that casual sex, in any amount of excess, is immoral?
ReplyDelete@ Mike, that's the thing... I have always thought that socially speaking, most people agreed that excessive casual sex was a faux pas. I mean... Tiger Woods, Sandra Bullock's husband... What is this new "sex rehab" craze?!
ReplyDeletePersonally speaking though, I like to think that sex is a little bit more significant than just the physical act, so excessive casual sex isn't something I'd ever consider. Maybe not immoral, just not emotionally practical.
My point though, and im not disagreeing with you at all just playing devils advocate, is do you have any idea why?
ReplyDeleteSocial upbringing/22 years of programing?
ReplyDeleteYeah. Its a damn pain in the ass.
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